A wedding gift is a thoughtful, symbolic expression of your feelings for the couple. But how much should you spend on it? There are no hard and fast rules to answer this question, but here are some guidelines that may help you decide.
The first thing to do when deciding on a wedding gift amount is to consider the type of relationship that you have with the bride and groom. If they’re just acquaintances or work colleagues, then it’s appropriate for your wedding gift to be small in nature – may be a card or something inexpensive like wine or flowers. Alternatively, if one person has been close friends with both bride and groom since childhood, then feel free to give them an expensive present without worrying about what others might think!
According to a study from the American Express Spending and Saving Tracker, guests are projected to spend an average of $99 on a wedding gift—unless they’re friends with the bride and groom. Family members are projected to spend at least $127. Whether you’re close to the couple or a distant friend, it isn’t very considerate to spend less than $50 on their gift. If everything left on the registry is over your budget of $50-75 and they’re coworkers or friends who are far away from them, get them a card so that they can buy something else for themselves with what’s leftover!
If you’re hoping to get the couple a big-ticket gift but don’t have enough money, recruit some friends and bridesmaids who are already spending lots of cash on other activities. And if your bride is super close with her maid or groom’s man, they’ll be especially grateful for that thoughtful gesture.
According to Etiquette expert Diane Gottsman, there are two important things you need to consider when figuring out how much money to spend on a wedding gift. The first is your relationship with the bride and groom; if they’re super close friends or family members then it’s probably safe for you to give them something pricey like an engraved bracelet that will last forever in their memories. If this couple isn’t someone special but rather coworkers who’ve invited you as one of many guests, then don’t spend more than $25-$30 per person since my contribution won’t be missed amongst all the other gifts being given by people at work.
While it is not good to be stingy, Diane says that “A gift is not an obligation. A guest wants to show gratitude for being invited and also support the couple’s wedding. But they should also give what they are comfortable with. There is no set rule for what to spend on a wedding gift, so it really depends on your personal finances as well as how you know the couple”
Some people like to estimate the cost of their meal and add that to anything over the price, or they pay more depending on how well they know the couple hosting it. The amount you give depends on your personal finances.
A thoughtful card should be included with any gift, regardless of the amount.
Knowing that the couple doesn’t really expect a gift, it’s nice to give one anyway. It shows appreciation for them hosting an event and presents a gesture of friendship too!
If you’re invited only to the evening event but not to the ceremony, many couples will state on their invite asking guests not expecting gifts or giving monetary ones instead. Choosing something from your budget at this cheaper end is still appreciated by both parties because they know how much time goes into planning such events!
It is not wrong to give cash as a wedding gift. One-third of people in the study said they prefer to give cash as a wedding gift instead of something for the home. Many millennials are getting married later. They already have many things in their homes. The couple might have a honeymoon fund online or a jar for people to put cash gifts into at the wedding. Don’t add more money than you can afford. They care about your presence at the wedding, not what you give them.
“Emily Post has always attested to the fact that you should send a gift when invited, unless it’s been years,” says Carlson. “I think people understand if someone declines an invitation and can’t afford a present, but instead of sending regrets with a letter they might write them themselves.”